This page guides a philosophy to teach others while preserving their autonomy. If you use it, you should first evaluate whether this method works for your teaching situation. Please note that it's not the only way to preserve autonomy, and not generic instructions, multiple ways to teach exist, and this method may not be appropriate for multiple reasons, including if it is dangerous to fail in the work.
The approach is presented with a hint of grandiosity. It also applies only when the person is motivated to learn the subject. Overall I think it's excellent for teaching children and to get people to do artful things where the dangers are overblown and people fear the consequences of getting things "wrong".
It's all about trusting people (including yourself) to learn through consequences rather than being managed or "fixed" by others. It took me a long time to get here and start trusting people on this.
Overall idea behind this content is that...
Learning happens without your control, it's a liberating thought, It can also scare you. Not controlling people requires effort from a teacher. To teach in the way described here, you need to have:
If you don't tolerate this, then you're unable to not manipulate or control students.
Learning can happen when the responsibility, observation and consequences connect in same person, and when one does not interfere.
Now lets assume that you're teaching something to a student. If it's available, you perhaps have some model present to examine and understand it.
"I noticed that this happened."
Support the student by observing things for them. This enables them to direct their attention to where it's needed.
"This is not my responsibility."
Although it may seem harsh, this actually helps the student to recognise that the learning is their work and responsibility.
"You are not allowed to do that"
As a teacher, ensure that students understand the limits and follow them. Control the situation, not the person.
Overall you should ensure the limits if the person doesn't follow them. This is especially important with children.
If student wants you to demonstrate or show how it's done, do things as well as you can.
As a teacher, you only explain things when a person asks. Never predict what the student needs.
"It's ok to be angry, but you're not allowed to punch others"
It's important to notice you should never teach another one to suppress their feelings or justify deeds with feelings.
Eventually the student starts making more mistakes than expected to their current skill level. This is a cue for you to arrange a break into the session.
Observation, limits, consequence.
"You took toy from another without a permission, My job is to prevent you from doing that. Please return the toy."
"You took toy from another without a permission, My job is to prevent you from doing that. What do you do now?"
NEVER do these: "Go to your room to think this", "You're awful", "You betrayed me"
Learning without control is slow, but sustainable.